Living for 44 years in wedlock has been sweet sour relationship, though arduous at times, but definitely a joyous journey a milestone to cross and be proud of.

It is love begets love situation and never ending story of anger , arguments , but nevertheless ceaseless memorable moments of courtship with resonance of love romance and passion.

Way back in 1975 I worked in Pune , obviously a difficult predicament I was in to travel to Srinagar every now and then for selecting the right girl to be my wife.

On the face of it ,looked stupid even those days to come from such a far distance simply to say yes or no.

But my father, being an astute resolute person, was in fact keen to seek my consent to the selection of the girl in waiting before proceeding ahead.

I undertook this uncomfortable voyage twice and finally gave in. I told my father to handle the job on his own.

“ Dad “, I said ”you are fully competent to do this for me and my consent is always there. I trust you and mum.” “All Kashmiri girls are good gracious and educated .so there is no problem as such” I continued emphatically.

“ ok my boy ,so nice of you to say so. But the task for me is more difficult now” He laughed heartily.

My father , a tall , be spectacled six footer of swarthy complexion was endowed with great sense of humour.

An educationist of repute, being in touch with young students , he was very much young at heart too.

Moreover he had love marriage with my beautiful small sized angel mother.

My mother was my grandfather’s bosom friend’s daughter . My father loved my mother very much and eventually married her.

Soon after I received a photograph ,exceedingly beautiful one of my wife.

The chiselled features with deep set doe eyes , demurely innocence made me simply to fall in love with the photograph who is eventually the queen of my tender heart.

Interestingly the photograph framed in exclusively silvery designed frame adores my working desk in my home office.

I just conveyed my consent in a jiffy through trunk call to my father .

I could imagine my consent might have done wonders for my father by relieving him from the stress that had compressed his mind for a long time.

My father recounted me the girl’s family background and I would say “ok ok” least interested in knowing that and hung the phone instantly.

I and my younger sister were yet to be married.

Father was keen to see me married so that he could relax with responsibilities taken off his shoulders.

My two elder sisters and two brothers were married already.

The eldest sister ,whom we fondly called Bengashi was great inspiration and help to my father. She was very upright ,modern woman and had full authority to take decisions regarding home affairs without any hitch.

Elder daughters were always a center of power and authority in a Kashmiri Pandit family to negate or accept any decision to be taken. So my sister, with affable magnetic personality ,was the most loved one of all the children.

I travelled down to Delhi in a train and flew to Srinagar by plane , very unusual at that time, to see my heartthrob.


Beautiful    kashmir   Dal lake

As the plane descended on to Srinagar airport ,the resplendent nature with snow capped mountains glittering through the bluebonnet skies, opened up a breathtaking view of the Paradise on earth ,my beautiful Kashmir.

The marriage date was fixed as 19th October .

My father ,a social reformer and ardent activist forebade any money spinning Celebrations like “Gandhun “–engagement and “Durbati”—special lunch organised by maternal side .

Marriage was an elaborate saga , as expected of   typical Kashmiri marriages those days with great fanfare.

Ceremony Groom’s house

The ladies invited dressed in co lo u r f u l attires , sang Kashmiri songs ,to the tunes of Kashmiri music with the twang of their noses , ‘ Wanvun’— a melodious refrain sung by a group of ladies. The guests were served with pink salted tea (sheer chai) in the midst and end of the singing throughout day and night ,

Finally on the D-day I was center of attraction , being decorated as Groom by my uncle ,  fondly called ‘Babuji’,who helped me to tie the turban with specially stitched ACCHKAN for the occasion. ‘Babuji’ was connoisseur  of our family loved and respected by one and all.

Before the marriage procession I stood on the ‘Vyoog’  —Rangoli , a decent decorative designed pattern of dry colours and the eldest Aunty gave nabbad a sweet hard dessert to nibble at . I and the Guests (Baraat) proceeded for bride’s house in several cars .

Those days the craze for marriages was at high pitch.. The guests and all others enjoyed to one’s fill.The participation used to be with  great zeal and fervour.

Reception at Bride’s place

 As soon as I and my Baraat (marriage procession) reached Bride’s place ,just at stone’s throw from our house, the relatives of bride greeted us by blowing a conch shell.

Here again as per ritual I was to stand on the ‘Vyoog ‘and the maternal uncle of the bride brought the bride out on to the Vyoog where I was made to stand.

The mother of the bride performed puja with lamps made of wheat flour and fed us both with the Nabad – the hard sweet dessert , and the purohit performed the Dwar pooja   before leading us to the Lagan (marriage ) mandhap – the auspicious place .

One more typical tradition of Kashmiri Pandit marriage is the performance of POSH PUZA , not performed in Hindu Indian marriages .

We were made to sit in comfortable posture , a red cloth was put on our heads and all relatives of both families offer flowers to the chanting of Vedic hymns .

The newly weds are regarded as Shiva and Pa r v a t i and worshipped as such .

Now I could see my bride dressed in beautiful sari and bedecked with ‘Dejaharu’   an ear ornament with golden tussels that pass through the the middle cartilage of the ear. The holes are pierced in Kashmiri Pandit girls at very early age of 4 or 5 years .

The ‘Dehjaru’ is having same sanctity as ‘Mangal sutra’ for Indian brides.

At this late stage of life the myriads of memories trickle down the mind and heart and I gleefully watch my wife Shara for hours together ,still beautiful and glittering like Summer’s sunny morning,thus enjoying every bit of the fleeting moments .






















The International Criminal Court { ICC} launched preliminary inquiry into the allegations of horrendous crimes perpetrated against humanity by Rodrigo Duterte, the president of Philippine in his frontal anti drugs crusade.

A report submitted last year to ICC listing out the evidence of direct involvement of Duterte for “extrajudicial executions and mass murder” over three decades since 1988 in his crusade against drugs as Mayor of Davao.

When he was mayor of Davao, Duterte’s crackdown on criminals was often carried out by death squads, allegedly with his approval thus killing thousands of poor innocents in Davao. The complaint submitted to the ICC has special mention of these brutal killings.

Since the frontal war on drugs it is claimed nearly 12000 Filipinos have been killed. But official statistics do admit nearly 4000 killed in the on going war.

The inquiry will be the ICC’s first of its kind in south –east Asian nation.

The ICC prosecutor Fatou Bensouda said in a statement that her office would “analyse crimes allegedly committed … since at least 1 July 2016 in the context of the ‘war on drugs’ campaign.”

Gary Alejano an opposition leader said the move was very important and offered “a ray of hope for the victims of his war on drugs, which is still ongoing right now.

Detente’s spokesperson, Harry Roque, described the inquiry as a “waste of the court’s time and resources,”

Roque further said continuing with the investigation would lower the sovereignty of the Philippines in the eyes of the world “because the domestic courts are functioning and willing to entertain this matter … and the alleged deaths, if true, were because of a legitimate police exercise.”

Duterte’s dislike for ICC, is well known calling it “bullshit”, “hypocritical” and “useless”

Phil Robertson, a deputy director in Human Rights Watch in its Asia division, said the ICC “absolutely should initiate a full investigation into these alleged crimes because to date there has been no serious attempt to investigate them by the Philippines police or prosecutors, much less take suspected killers to court”.

The President Rodrigo Duterte is known for his incendiary foul language has earned him controversial name.

His outbursts have sent ripples across the political spectrum of the world.

Calling the former President Barack Obama as “son of a whore” , trivializing the rape of an Australian missionary during prison riots are a few among many of his damaging outbursts.

Human rights groups, Activists have allegedly charged the President Duterte of conniving the military to commit war crimes on the communists in southern island of Mindanao offering a bounty of $384 for each head.

The exiled leader of the Communist Party of Philippines Jose Maria Sison said Duterte is “acting like the chieftain of a criminal gang” .


                                                                                                              The Guardian/Alzeera


The Case Of Missing Girls

 The fighter jets ,surveillance planes are searching for the 110 girls ,aged between 11 and 19 ,missing since a raid by Boko Haram militants on the school in Dapchi last week.

The Nigerian President   Muhammadu Buhari described the raid as the “ the national disaster” and promised to return the girls to the grieved parents soon.

The promise is taken with a pinch of salt in wake of 100girls yet to return out of 300 girls kidnapped in Chikbok in 2014.

“ we are sorry that it happened .we share your pain .Let me assure that our gallant armed forces will locate and safely return all the missing girls” Muhammadu Buhari said in twitter.

Let us all pray for the return of these kidnapped girls safely .









I walk through my dreams

by the purring streams

ravishing dandelions

delightful daffodils

emitting the fragrance


mesmerizing me

to soulful slumber

I walk through the rustling trees

Marvel at bewitching


memories scowl with the gusty


cautiously I hop

to scale the mountain top

gaze around the valley

in astonishing


I walk through my dreams

By the purring streams

I see her in dark velvet attire

skirting the glistening lagoons

with her coquettish wink

and intoxicating drink

our bodies stretch and merge

                                                                     in a tight hug


we tumble scramble

down the green slope

drowning in the ocean

of her eyes

I breath into her throbbing


drenched and lost

in blissful passion.




Am I so old


Mix mingle

into eternal

   realms of


I stand on the unknown


With bleary eyes

Perching on the


Seeking blessings

To replenish

my energies


   To frisk and


With young

pretty beauty



I stand on the unknow


With misty gaze

Delving deep into

   Sandy shores

Shimmering haze

With the glistening


  Fighting mighty waves

engulfing my curves

   Firmly entrenched

   I swim across the



Am I so old


Mix mingle

   Into eternal

                                                                           realms of




It is love again

Love again

again again

On the wheezy breezy sneezy

Winter dawn

I saw her stretched out on lawn

Basking warming in the glinting


Traversing through the bushes

And trees.

With her dreaming eyes

Aquiline nose

Dazzling like a dewy morning rose

She beckons me to her arms

lured to her charms

I listlessly recline on her

bossom so warm.

gropping my fingers into

her lithe lissom


melting into blissful hug.

Clasping me to her firm


passions rose high into

every vein

and my tingling


easing me from stress

and pain

while I make love

she drools over

in ecstasy..

It is love again

Love again

again again




Kashmir continues to be jolted by the border intrusions of Pakistan Army force targeting Indian Army quarters as well as Police posts thus killing   police , Army and innocent civilians with impunity .

The attack on CRPF Training Centre by militants ON 31ST December 2017 at Lethpora , Pulwama was lethal one ,killing five CRPF persons and injuring three seriously.

Home Grown militants

Pakistan is poised to continue its belligerent hostile  war with India thus keeping Kashmir conundrum alive.

The state Separators , pawns in the hands of Pakistan are being successfully used to fuel the youth of Kashmir towards radicalisation path to raise home grown Militants . Thus ensuring their involvement to make Kashmir Separator Movement , a Movement of the people of Kashmir .

The recent spurt in the local youths joining Militancy to be part of fidayeen attacks in the valley is a matter of grave concern.

Fardeen Khanday 16, and Manzoor Baba 22, were killed in 31st December attack on CRPF Training Center at Pulwama , making it probably first fidayeen suicide attack in Kashmir involving local militants. The third killed was reported to be a Pakistani .

Fardeen khanday belonged to Tral ,the home of Hizb-ul Mujahideen Commander Burhan Wani , and one more militant Aaquib Moulvi killed in encounter in March last year ,was his neighbour.It is reported that Fradeen was very much disturbed after killing of Aaquib .and this could have been strong reason of his being part of fidayeen attack.

Manzoor Baba had earlier surfaced in the attack of November 4 by a group of militants in Pulwama.

But all of them escaped at that time killing one official.

He again attacked CRPF Training Center in Pulwama and got killed this time. As matter of fact being part of fidayeen suicide attack.

Reasons And  possible Solutions

It will be wrong to ascertain that the upswing of youth joining militancy and the turmoil thereby caused is direct consequence of dispute over the accession to India .

The youths born after 1990,the year of rising militancy in Kashmir, witnessed turbulent state of affairs all these years. They did not see peaceful good times ,when Kashmir ushered in glory and galloped on to the path of progress.

The current turbid times made them to fall prey to the ploy of Separators and Pakistan backed militants to wage a war with Indian Army and Police, seen as oppressors .

This was complicated by state and Centre pursuing the policy of hard mascular militaristic approach to weed out militancy .

The militancy has not ended .Apart from bloodshed and violence it caused more alienation of the people especially the youth .

It is high time to have a positive re-thinking on the Kashmir issue from larger perspective and put an end to combative policy instead..

CM Mehbooba Mufti Bold Message

In a bold message to mainstream and separatist politicians CM Mehbooba Mufti on Wednesday 9th January 2017 said “ I want to bring this on record today that whatsoever the J&K people ,mainstream or outside mainstream ,get will be from this country and no one else. Whatsoever you have got till today has come from here and whatsoever you get in future ,whether it is dignity ,or opening of new routes ,taking trade to the next level ,or dialogue so as to end bloodshed,has to be given by our country and not by any foreign nation”

This is a good beginning in telling the basic truth to the people and youth of Kashmir so that they come to terms with the Govt of the day.

Her admittance of the bad situation over last two years is in itself a sincere move to redress the situation on part of the Govt.

CM Mehbooba Mufti should build confidence in the minds of youth by interacting directly ,so that they are weaned away from the present tortuous state of minds and assuring them of better tomorrow. In fact all state political leaders of various Parties must engage the youth to peaceful path and thus help the cause for the good.

PM Mr Modi with huge mandate should make sincere efforts to address to the Kashmir situation like his two predecessors Mr Atal Vajpayee and Dr ManMohan Singh .

Both tried to build a bridge of friendship but Pakistan’s belligerency came in the way.

Mr Modi has capacity to take an extra mile and thus work to workable solution on permanent basis.

The hard task needs for an inclusive politics meaning to take all political parties into a huddle and thus make positive contribution. Nothing cannot be achieved singularly .


The question of accession is complete and irrevocable.

We expect India ,under the present Central Govt , has enough spine to declare in emphatic terms having no intention to discuss Kashmir with Pakistan.

A natural discipline has to be evolved by political parties to cry halt to disparate opinions to preserve the integrity and unity by speaking in one voice on sensitive issues of grave consequences the like one of Kashmir .

It should go a long way in strengthening the hands of the Govt of the Day in tackling not only Kashmir but other international issues concerning our country and the world.
















I can behold the murky

Melancholy evening

Dark clouds looming dooming

Over Jammu horizons

 She lay there on the bed

turning scratching

her head

Panting gasping

for breath

like a wounded bird

Breathing in and out

Without a whimper

or a word

 Fingers wriggling

Limbs flailing

eyes vacant

Tears frozen

I stand in anger

and remorse

  The lightening struck

The soul wafted from her body

And she lay

still serene


eternal peace

 I kissed her forehead


my tears moisten

and rolled down.

 The curtain fell

And I watched

the flames leaping

wrapping her fragile

body .

she vanished into blissful


Leaving me to gather

her remnants to be

immersed in the waters

Of Holy Ganges.