Living for 44 years in wedlock has been sweet sour relationship, though arduous at times, but definitely a joyous journey a milestone to cross and be proud of.

It is love begets love situation and never ending story of anger , arguments , but nevertheless ceaseless memorable moments of courtship with resonance of love romance and passion.

Way back in 1975 I worked in Pune , obviously a difficult predicament I was in to travel to Srinagar every now and then for selecting the right girl to be my wife.

On the face of it ,looked stupid even those days to come from such a far distance simply to say yes or no.

But my father, being an astute resolute person, was in fact keen to seek my consent to the selection of the girl in waiting before proceeding ahead.

I undertook this uncomfortable voyage twice and finally gave in. I told my father to handle the job on his own.

“ Dad “, I said ”you are fully competent to do this for me and my consent is always there. I trust you and mum.” “All Kashmiri girls are good gracious and educated .so there is no problem as such” I continued emphatically.

“ ok my boy ,so nice of you to say so. But the task for me is more difficult now” He laughed heartily.

My father , a tall , be spectacled six footer of swarthy complexion was endowed with great sense of humour.

An educationist of repute, being in touch with young students , he was very much young at heart too.

Moreover he had love marriage with my beautiful small sized angel mother.

My mother was my grandfather’s bosom friend’s daughter . My father loved my mother very much and eventually married her.

Soon after I received a photograph ,exceedingly beautiful one of my wife.

The chiselled features with deep set doe eyes , demurely innocence made me simply to fall in love with the photograph who is eventually the queen of my tender heart.

Interestingly the photograph framed in exclusively silvery designed frame adores my working desk in my home office.

I just conveyed my consent in a jiffy through trunk call to my father .

I could imagine my consent might have done wonders for my father by relieving him from the stress that had compressed his mind for a long time.

My father recounted me the girl’s family background and I would say “ok ok” least interested in knowing that and hung the phone instantly.

I and my younger sister were yet to be married.

Father was keen to see me married so that he could relax with responsibilities taken off his shoulders.

My two elder sisters and two brothers were married already.

The eldest sister ,whom we fondly called Bengashi was great inspiration and help to my father. She was very upright ,modern woman and had full authority to take decisions regarding home affairs without any hitch.

Elder daughters were always a center of power and authority in a Kashmiri Pandit family to negate or accept any decision to be taken. So my sister, with affable magnetic personality ,was the most loved one of all the children.

I travelled down to Delhi in a train and flew to Srinagar by plane , very unusual at that time, to see my heartthrob.


Beautiful    kashmir   Dal lake

As the plane descended on to Srinagar airport ,the resplendent nature with snow capped mountains glittering through the bluebonnet skies, opened up a breathtaking view of the Paradise on earth ,my beautiful Kashmir.

The marriage date was fixed as 19th October .

My father ,a social reformer and ardent activist forebade any money spinning Celebrations like “Gandhun “–engagement and “Durbati”—special lunch organised by maternal side .

Marriage was an elaborate saga , as expected of   typical Kashmiri marriages those days with great fanfare.

Ceremony Groom’s house

The ladies invited dressed in co lo u r f u l attires , sang Kashmiri songs ,to the tunes of Kashmiri music with the twang of their noses , ‘ Wanvun’— a melodious refrain sung by a group of ladies. The guests were served with pink salted tea (sheer chai) in the midst and end of the singing throughout day and night ,

Finally on the D-day I was center of attraction , being decorated as Groom by my uncle ,  fondly called ‘Babuji’,who helped me to tie the turban with specially stitched ACCHKAN for the occasion. ‘Babuji’ was connoisseur  of our family loved and respected by one and all.

Before the marriage procession I stood on the ‘Vyoog’  —Rangoli , a decent decorative designed pattern of dry colours and the eldest Aunty gave nabbad a sweet hard dessert to nibble at . I and the Guests (Baraat) proceeded for bride’s house in several cars .

Those days the craze for marriages was at high pitch.. The guests and all others enjoyed to one’s fill.The participation used to be with  great zeal and fervour.

Reception at Bride’s place

 As soon as I and my Baraat (marriage procession) reached Bride’s place ,just at stone’s throw from our house, the relatives of bride greeted us by blowing a conch shell.

Here again as per ritual I was to stand on the ‘Vyoog ‘and the maternal uncle of the bride brought the bride out on to the Vyoog where I was made to stand.

The mother of the bride performed puja with lamps made of wheat flour and fed us both with the Nabad – the hard sweet dessert , and the purohit performed the Dwar pooja   before leading us to the Lagan (marriage ) mandhap – the auspicious place .

One more typical tradition of Kashmiri Pandit marriage is the performance of POSH PUZA , not performed in Hindu Indian marriages .

We were made to sit in comfortable posture , a red cloth was put on our heads and all relatives of both families offer flowers to the chanting of Vedic hymns .

The newly weds are regarded as Shiva and Pa r v a t i and worshipped as such .

Now I could see my bride dressed in beautiful sari and bedecked with ‘Dejaharu’   an ear ornament with golden tussels that pass through the the middle cartilage of the ear. The holes are pierced in Kashmiri Pandit girls at very early age of 4 or 5 years .

The ‘Dehjaru’ is having same sanctity as ‘Mangal sutra’ for Indian brides.

At this late stage of life the myriads of memories trickle down the mind and heart and I gleefully watch my wife Shara for hours together ,still beautiful and glittering like Summer’s sunny morning,thus enjoying every bit of the fleeting moments .





















I walk through my dreams

by the purring streams

ravishing dandelions

delightful daffodils

emitting the fragrance


mesmerizing me

to soulful slumber

I walk through the rustling trees

Marvel at bewitching


memories scowl with the gusty


cautiously I hop

to scale the mountain top

gaze around the valley

in astonishing


I walk through my dreams

By the purring streams

I see her in dark velvet attire

skirting the glistening lagoons

with her coquettish wink

and intoxicating drink

our bodies stretch and merge

                                                                     in a tight hug


we tumble scramble

down the green slope

drowning in the ocean

of her eyes

I breath into her throbbing


drenched and lost

in blissful passion.




Last week in his widely blistering speech in  Parliament on February 7th2018 , Prime Minister Narender Modi set the tone for Nehru vs Patel rhetoric, denying Nehru his due by singling out him and the Congress Party responsible for the Partition of the Country.{desh ke tukde kiya}.

His pet aversion for Nehru led him to brazenly argue that Patel was denied to become the Congress Chief , eventually the first Prime Minister of India, claiming would have been definitely a better choice than Mr Nehru .Mahatma Gandhi knew well Pt Nehru was highly educated, young dynamic tallest political leader of India at the time and he preferred him to Sardar Patel in all probabilities.

The speech as per veteran Congress leader MP Dr Shashi Tharoor  was   “a farrago of distortions”.

Pt Jawaharlal Nehru proved his credentials by winning the Parliamentary elections in 1952,1957,1962 in straight sets with two thirds majority each time proving Mahatma Gandhi’s trust in his leadership and statesmanship for good.

With these three elections Mr Nehru was able to demonstrate to the world the institutionalisation of strong democracy in India at a time when democracies essentially collapsed in developing world like house of cards.

The greatness and popularity of Pt Jawahar lal Nehru was insurmountable in India and across the world., hence could not be gauged by any gadget and it is beyond the comprehension of the present generation to fathom the veracity ,magnanimity of his greatness, compassion and love for the nation.



Mr Nehru and S a r d a r Patel were colleagues, co-workers and worked together in uniting India and had tremendous coordination patriotism and welfare of the people uppermost in their hearts and minds.

Soon after Mahatma Gandhi’s assassination the two leaders resolved to work in unison for fighting the disruptive elements for the good of the country .

A glance over the correspondence between S a r d a r Patel and Mr Nehru reveals how deeply they respected and trusted each other to carry on the task at hand in building new India.

Nehru to Patel


New Delhi



My dear Vallabbbhai.

 When B a p u was alive we had hoped to meet him and discuss various matters that had troubled us somewhat.

You will remember our correspondence. In my last letter I had expressed the hope that, inspite of certain differences of opinion and temperament ,we should continue to pull together as we had done for so long. This was ,I was glad to find, Bapu’s final opinion also.

Now, with Bapu’s death ,everything is changed and we had to face a different and more difficult world. The old controversies have ceased to have much significance and it seems to me that the urgent need of the bout is for all of us to function as closely and cooperatively as possible. Indeed there is no other way.

I have been greatly distressed by the persistence of whispers and rumours about you and me magnifying out of all proportion any differences we have.

This has spread to foreign ambassadors and foreign correspondents; mischief makers take advantage of this and add to it. Even the services are affected and this is bad. we must put end to this mischief.

It is over a quarter of century since we have been closely associated with one another and we have faced many storms and perils together. I can say with full honesty that during this period my affection and regard for you have grown and I do not think anything can happen to lessen this.

Even our differences have brought out the far greater points of agreement between respect and us we bear to each other.

We have even learnt to agree to differ and yet carry on together.

Anyway, in this crisis that we have to [ face] now after Bapu’s death I think it is my duty and if I may venture to say ,yours also for us to face it together as friends and colleagues.

Not superficially but in full loyalty to one another and with confidence in each other. I can assure you that you will have that from me .If I any have doubt or difficulty I shall put it frankly to you and I hope you will do the same to me.

I had hoped to have a long talk with you, but we are terribly pressed for time that we can hardly see each other in private for long. Some time or other , soon I hope ,we shall have this talk and remove any misunderstandings or misapprehensions that may have arisen. Such talks are necessary from time to time. Meanwhile I do not wait for this talk and hence this letter which carries with it my affection and friendship for you.


Yours affectionately



 Patel to Nehru

 New Delhi

February 5 1948

My dear Jawaharlal.

 I am deeply touched, indeed overwhelmed by the affection and warmth of your letter of 3 February. I fully and heartily reciprocate the sentiments you have feelingly expressed.

 We both have been life long comrades in a common cause. The paramount interests of our country and our mutual love and regard ,transcending such differences of outlook and temperament as existed, have led us together.

Both of us have stuck passionately to our respective points of view or methods of work; still we have always sustained unity of heart which has stood many a stress and strain and which has enabled us to function jointly both in the Congress and in the Government.

Recent events had made me very unhappy and I had written to Bapu when I was going to Bombay appealing to him to relieve me but his death changes everything and the crisis that has overtaken us must overtaken us a fresh realization of how much we have achieved together and the need for further joint efforts on our grief-stricken country’s interests.

 I had the good fortune to have a last talk with him for over an hour just before his death and he communicated to me what had passed between you and him as well as his talk with H.E [Mountbatten] .He had also fixed an appointment to meet both of us the next day. His opinion also binds us both and I can assure you I am fully resolved to approach my responsibilities and obligations in this spirit.

I agree with you that we must find more time for mutual consultations so that we can keep each other informed of and in touch with you , what is happening and we can thus resolve any points of difference that may arise.

We should also find an early opportunity to have a long talk and clear our minds of any doubts and difficulties that may be there.

Continued harping our differences in the public or private is bad for us, bad for the services and bad for the country. The sooner we set this at rest once for all and clear the murky atmosphere the better.



Vallabbbhai Patel.                     

                                                                                               source    { Patel /JN  Papers}


 Mr Ram Guha ,the historian writes

“ whenever Modi says something to diminish Nehru ,or to oppose Nehru or Patel,the Twitterverse is abuzz with appeals to historical truths which PM distorts . For Nehru and Patel were colleagues .not rivals, co workers not adversaries . working individually and together ,they united India and gave it a democratic template.”     {Source Indian Express 9February18}


Praising the Congress stalwart Jawaharlal Nehru while addressing participants at a youth conclave in Lucknow , BJP MP Varun Gandhi said, “People think that Nehru became the first Prime Minister and lived a lavish life like a king, full of comfort and luxury. What they don’t know is Nehru spent 15 and half years languishing in jail to become the country’s first PM. If today someone puts me in jail and say that after 15 years, we will make you the PM, I will say, bhaiya maaf karo. aadmi ki jaan hi nikal jaaye (Brother, I regret! In 15 years, one may die).”

As youth, said Gandhi, it is our respsonsibility to understand that he (Nehru) sacrificed his life, family and borne wounds on his body to get country free and this freedom should not be wasted.                                                 { source T.O.India}


Modi’s Dilemma


Prime Minister Mr Modi’s dilemma is how best to distract the voters from his own government’s abysmal failures and engage them in sifting chaff from the Nehru Patel grain to cover up his incompetency.

Knowing well the General elections are just one year away , Mr Modi understands that by chastising the Congress , Rahul Gandhi in Particular , may reap fruits for his Party at the hust i n g s .

Hours after his scathing speech deriding the Congress and Pt Nehru,  Rahul Gandhi slammed back saying that PM was talking of past as he “ does not know how to take India forward.” “ visionless election speech to divert the Nation’s attention from unemployment ,agrarian distress and tension at the borders” Rahul continued angrily.


We trust and pray finally wisdom dawns on BJP leaders and the Central Govt to come out of its rhetoric politics and work towards the tranquility and prosperity of the people .




Am I so old


Mix mingle

into eternal

   realms of


I stand on the unknown


With bleary eyes

Perching on the


Seeking blessings

To replenish

my energies


   To frisk and


With young

pretty beauty



I stand on the unknow


With misty gaze

Delving deep into

   Sandy shores

Shimmering haze

With the glistening


  Fighting mighty waves

engulfing my curves

   Firmly entrenched

   I swim across the



Am I so old


Mix mingle

   Into eternal

                                                                           realms of





 Afghanistan is bleeding in the throes of long war struggling to survive over for about three decades now.

Afghanistan was peaceful from 1933 to 1976. The Soviets invaded it in December 1979 following coup by pro Soviet Union members in April 1978.

The Soviets withdrew its all forces in 1989 but fighting between Soviet backed Afghan forces and Mujahideens continued unabated .The Mujahideens were supported both militarily and financially by United states ,Saudi Arabia, but being trained by Pakistan largely.


The Taliban a militant group ,supported and inspired by conservative sect of Islam grew from the debris of the civil war to political saver of the country.

They seized the capital and took reigns of administration from September 1996 and controlled almost all Afghanistan .

IN 2001following terrorist attacks in United states ,Washington , suspecting hand of Osama bin laden and Al Qaida , requested Taliban to hand over the people and destroy all training camps inside Afghanistan.

The Taliban refused to comply to US request ,thus setting stage for US invasion of Afghanistan bringing end to the Taliban regime thereby.

Currently 50 billion US dollars is being spent on the reconstruction of Afghanistan following two important partnership agreements between US and Afghanistan in 2005 and 2012 respectively.

Parliamentary elections were fought in 2005 and democratically Karzai was elected the president thus restoring the civil rule .

Afghanistan subsequently signing strategic agreements with Pakistan, India ,UK,Australia ,Germany and many other nations to help in building a stable Afghanistan.

Talibans are still threat to the peace of the nation.

On Saturday 28th January 2018 Taliban Militants detonated an ambulance with explosives in the crowded street of Kabul killing 100 civilians instantly and injuring more than 240 others.

The gruesome attack has put the government in complete disarray as this being the second deadliest attack in one week. The Taliban renewed offensive has put the country’s fragile security in jeopardy.

The Jhumariat hospital in Kabul close to the scene of the blast was on its toes to treat the scores of injured and in identifying the dead ones.

In the last weekend’s attack the militants had entered Intercontinental Hotel , battling security forces for an hour long siege ,killing at least 20 persons ,out of which 14 were foreigners including Americans. Nine were reported to be pilots and flight crew, from Venezuela, Ukraine working for Afghan airline Kam Air.

Anger and despondency write large on the faces of Afghan people. The cries of weeping wailing under the seething pain ranted the air.

“ I saw a flame that blinded my eyes, I went unconscious .”said Nazir ,45 years while suffering a head injury.” “when I opened my eyes I saw bodies lying on the ground.” He continued.

Mr Yammamto ,chief of United Nations in Afghanistan said “ I am particularly disturbed by credible reports that the attackers used a vehicle painted to look like an ambulance including bearing the distinctive medical emblem is in violation of the International humanitarian law.”                                                                         sourcesN.Y.Times


The Taliban  claimed the blasts .  The  spokesperson, Zabiullah Mujahid said “ The Islamic Emirate has clear message for Trump and his hand kissers that if you go ahead with a policy of aggression and speak from the barrel of gun,don’t expect Afghans to grow flowers in response.”                                                                    Source REUTERS

 Ghastly attacks 2017;

 May    150killed near German embassy in Kabul

August 50 killed in suicide attack at shia mosque in Kabul

August   37 killed in suicide bomb attack near shia mosque in Herat.

October   67 and 88 killed in 02 separate suicide        attacks within hours , one in Kabul and second in Ghor Province

 December 41 killed in bombing at shia cultural centre in Kabul housing Afghan Voice news agency .


 With 16years of on going long war in Afghanistan and still no means to see an end anywhere in the near future US and Afghan partners need to change the gears to rope in more afghan people to work for peace and stability by enlisting them to peace talks.

Taliban Tactics to create more chaos and instability should be fought effectively by better security measures so that the Taliban’s guerrilla warfare is defeated.

President Trump has rightly understood Pakistan, playing double game with the Taliban and frozen the security aid. But it is to be seen whether this helps to bring some sanity in the peace process between Taliban and US.

Trump is not a person to move forward for peace on his own .He would not accept defeat and thus continue to pound Taliban till they accept defeat and come to peace terms.

The AFGHAN PRESIDENT needs to find an alternative option to usher Afghanistan to peace and tranquility.

His stakes are more than his partner and needs strong security measures to trounce Taliban terrorist attacks with impunity.





It is love again

Love again

again again

On the wheezy breezy sneezy

Winter dawn

I saw her stretched out on lawn

Basking warming in the glinting


Traversing through the bushes

And trees.

With her dreaming eyes

Aquiline nose

Dazzling like a dewy morning rose

She beckons me to her arms

lured to her charms

I listlessly recline on her

bossom so warm.

gropping my fingers into

her lithe lissom


melting into blissful hug.

Clasping me to her firm


passions rose high into

every vein

and my tingling


easing me from stress

and pain

while I make love

she drools over

in ecstasy..

It is love again

Love again

again again




Kashmir continues to be jolted by the border intrusions of Pakistan Army force targeting Indian Army quarters as well as Police posts thus killing   police , Army and innocent civilians with impunity .

The attack on CRPF Training Centre by militants ON 31ST December 2017 at Lethpora , Pulwama was lethal one ,killing five CRPF persons and injuring three seriously.

Home Grown militants

Pakistan is poised to continue its belligerent hostile  war with India thus keeping Kashmir conundrum alive.

The state Separators , pawns in the hands of Pakistan are being successfully used to fuel the youth of Kashmir towards radicalisation path to raise home grown Militants . Thus ensuring their involvement to make Kashmir Separator Movement , a Movement of the people of Kashmir .

The recent spurt in the local youths joining Militancy to be part of fidayeen attacks in the valley is a matter of grave concern.

Fardeen Khanday 16, and Manzoor Baba 22, were killed in 31st December attack on CRPF Training Center at Pulwama , making it probably first fidayeen suicide attack in Kashmir involving local militants. The third killed was reported to be a Pakistani .

Fardeen khanday belonged to Tral ,the home of Hizb-ul Mujahideen Commander Burhan Wani , and one more militant Aaquib Moulvi killed in encounter in March last year ,was his neighbour.It is reported that Fradeen was very much disturbed after killing of Aaquib .and this could have been strong reason of his being part of fidayeen attack.

Manzoor Baba had earlier surfaced in the attack of November 4 by a group of militants in Pulwama.

But all of them escaped at that time killing one official.

He again attacked CRPF Training Center in Pulwama and got killed this time. As matter of fact being part of fidayeen suicide attack.

Reasons And  possible Solutions

It will be wrong to ascertain that the upswing of youth joining militancy and the turmoil thereby caused is direct consequence of dispute over the accession to India .

The youths born after 1990,the year of rising militancy in Kashmir, witnessed turbulent state of affairs all these years. They did not see peaceful good times ,when Kashmir ushered in glory and galloped on to the path of progress.

The current turbid times made them to fall prey to the ploy of Separators and Pakistan backed militants to wage a war with Indian Army and Police, seen as oppressors .

This was complicated by state and Centre pursuing the policy of hard mascular militaristic approach to weed out militancy .

The militancy has not ended .Apart from bloodshed and violence it caused more alienation of the people especially the youth .

It is high time to have a positive re-thinking on the Kashmir issue from larger perspective and put an end to combative policy instead..

CM Mehbooba Mufti Bold Message

In a bold message to mainstream and separatist politicians CM Mehbooba Mufti on Wednesday 9th January 2017 said “ I want to bring this on record today that whatsoever the J&K people ,mainstream or outside mainstream ,get will be from this country and no one else. Whatsoever you have got till today has come from here and whatsoever you get in future ,whether it is dignity ,or opening of new routes ,taking trade to the next level ,or dialogue so as to end bloodshed,has to be given by our country and not by any foreign nation”

This is a good beginning in telling the basic truth to the people and youth of Kashmir so that they come to terms with the Govt of the day.

Her admittance of the bad situation over last two years is in itself a sincere move to redress the situation on part of the Govt.

CM Mehbooba Mufti should build confidence in the minds of youth by interacting directly ,so that they are weaned away from the present tortuous state of minds and assuring them of better tomorrow. In fact all state political leaders of various Parties must engage the youth to peaceful path and thus help the cause for the good.

PM Mr Modi with huge mandate should make sincere efforts to address to the Kashmir situation like his two predecessors Mr Atal Vajpayee and Dr ManMohan Singh .

Both tried to build a bridge of friendship but Pakistan’s belligerency came in the way.

Mr Modi has capacity to take an extra mile and thus work to workable solution on permanent basis.

The hard task needs for an inclusive politics meaning to take all political parties into a huddle and thus make positive contribution. Nothing cannot be achieved singularly .


The question of accession is complete and irrevocable.

We expect India ,under the present Central Govt , has enough spine to declare in emphatic terms having no intention to discuss Kashmir with Pakistan.

A natural discipline has to be evolved by political parties to cry halt to disparate opinions to preserve the integrity and unity by speaking in one voice on sensitive issues of grave consequences the like one of Kashmir .

It should go a long way in strengthening the hands of the Govt of the Day in tackling not only Kashmir but other international issues concerning our country and the world.